DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been married lower than a 12 months, and I’m pregnant with my first little one. Our child was deliberate, and we have been thrilled.
One thing modified with my husband as soon as I hit the second trimester. If I learn one thing about being pregnant and attempt to share it with him, he immediately shuts me down, saying I shouldn’t imagine the whole lot I learn or that I’m losing my time. He doesn’t need to arrange something within the nursery, both. He retains saying we don’t must do it till a month earlier than the child is due.
I’m making an attempt to be affected person and understanding, however mates have now taken a step again from speaking to me and I’m feeling very remoted. The opposite evening, my husband put me down at dinner with mates. Certainly one of them stated being pregnant was probably the most egocentric factor a lady might do, and my husband AGREED! I’m nonetheless damage by the remark. Whereas the individual apologized for saying it and additional defined their place on the topic (everybody had been ingesting, besides me), my husband hasn’t apologized. He refuses and says I’m idiotic for being so upset about it.
I’m at a loss right here. We deliberate for this child, and I believed it might deliver us even nearer. Now I really feel extremely alone and unhappy. Why would anybody say one thing so merciless, and why would my husband agree as an alternative of being on my aspect? — EXPECTING MORE IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR EXPECTING: Being pregnant is an thrilling and difficult expertise for all involved, and your feelings could also be heightened. Though your husband was initially enthusiastic in regards to the concept of beginning a household instantly, it’s potential that in this second trimester he acknowledged the truth of the tasks that include parenthood. It is usually potential that, due to your pleasure about your being pregnant, it has change into your predominant matter of dialog, which can be why your folks have stepped again.
The comment that was made the night the 2 of you have been with mates was possible fueled by an excessive amount of alcohol and never sufficient common sense. Your husband might have agreed as a result of he feels jealous that your physique has been “co-opted” by the child. Not understanding him, I can’t guess at why he continues to refuse to apologize for it.
It appears to me you’ll really feel much less remoted for those who discovered an older, extra skilled feminine buddy or relative to information you thru this difficult interval. Additionally, sustain together with your medical appointments to verify the whole lot is progressing usually.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be born deaf in my proper ear. Regardless of what number of instances I remind the folks I’m closest to, they nonetheless appear to get aggravated with me as a result of I ask them to repeat what they are saying. It’s particularly arduous for me when their backs are turned to me. Any options on find out how to curb my anger? Sure, it does upset me due to my listening to problem. — HEARING AS BEST AS I CAN
DEAR HEARING: Curb your anger by persevering with to remind folks they should speak into your “good” ear and, when you’re seated, make certain the folks you have an interest in conversing with are sitting to your left. Should you do, it might be much less hectic for all of you.
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