DEAR ABBY: I’m the mom of a 16-year-old lady, “Leia.” She has been residing with my mother and father since she was 10 as a result of that’s what she and my of us needed on the time. I didn’t need her to, however I allowed it to occur as a result of I used to be having well being points.
Leia selected to stay there as a result of my mother and father spoiled her rotten, and so they proceed to spoil and pamper her. This has resulted in her changing into essentially the most self-centered, demanding, disrespectful particular person my mother and father and I’ve ever seen, and so they now need her to reside with me. I predicted (to myself solely) that she’d prove this fashion on account of their “parenting.” My mother and father created an entitled teenager and now they anticipate me to undergo the results of what they did.
They guilt-trip me with their well being issues as a cause they need her to go away. I don’t need her to return right here. I don’t wish to should cope with her angle and attempt to stop her from working away. I additionally don’t wish to lose my daughter perpetually as a result of they kicked her out, however she doesn’t like my guidelines. What recommendation do you will have? — MOM OF A MONSTER
DEAR MOM: Your mother and father took your daughter in due to your well being points. You enabled their poor parenting to proceed by permitting your daughter to reside with them and never talking up. In the end, Leia is your duty till she is eighteen, and probably longer.
Your mother and father should now clarify to Leia that due to their poor well being, she can be staying with you. As a minor, this determination will not be hers to make. (It shouldn’t have been within the first place.) When she and her belongings arrive, clarify what YOUR home guidelines can be and the explanations for them. If she threatens to run away, level out that if that occurs, she could change into a ward of the state, and foster care could possibly be much less nice than staying with the mom who loves her however doesn’t like who Leia has change into whereas residing with the grands.
DEAR ABBY: Two {couples} I do know are getting married quickly. Each {couples} plan on having small, intimate weddings within the close to future and bigger, grander weddings in a while. Every has their very own causes for doing so.
What’s the present coverage when somebody holds two weddings? I’ve already bought one thing for one couple’s upcoming small wedding ceremony and can doubtless attend their massive one, however should I purchase them a present for that one as effectively? Or is one present on the small wedding ceremony for every couple sufficient? — EXCITED GUEST IN OHIO
DEAR GUEST: Wedding ceremony items are given in celebration of the WEDDING. What these associates are scheduling is an “occasion” FOLLOWING their intimate wedding ceremony. No rule of etiquette calls for that you just give the couple two separate items.
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