DEAR ABBY: I’m a single father or mother, and my youngsters’ grandfather (my father-in-law) has provided to observe them at his home as soon as every week. I might like to take him up on it as a result of it will assist me sustain with all of my obligations. However I hesitate as a result of he wasn’t an concerned father, so he has no parenting expertise.
For instance, he struggles with battle administration between the youngsters (and his personal mood). He has no sense: I don’t belief he is aware of what or when to feed the youngsters. Additionally, his home is an entire mess; he by no means throws something away.
My youngsters get pleasure from spending time with him, and we don’t have a lot household, so I’d prefer to foster their relationships. How do I maximize the nice and reduce the dangerous of their visits? How do I help him doing the most effective by my youngsters with out me being overbearing? — MOM WITH HELP
DEAR MOM: A number of the points you increase will be resolved by merely speaking to your father-in-law and telling him how YOU resolve conflicts between the youngsters, what you need them fed and when. A messy home is completely different from one that might have a detrimental affect upon their well being. How dangerous is it? Does the place pose a hazard to your youngsters? Is it doable that he may babysit at your home relatively than his?
Concerning his mood, nevertheless, are you completely certain he received’t abuse your youngsters if he loses it? If the reply to that query is not any, then babysitting can’t be allowed.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been seeing a hairstylist for a decade. Over the last couple of years, I don’t really feel I’ve gotten the service I deserve. I am going in for a trim about each two months (generally longer to economize). She is extraordinarily busy and generally delegates “inexperienced” hairstylists to clean and blow-dry my hair.
I recognize that she offers new hairstylists an opportunity to get expertise, however final time two completely different folks labored on my hair along with her, and it took an hour and a half for a easy trim. On high of that, she charged me an additional $10. I prefer to tip everybody correctly (somewhat one thing for the associates, with 20% going to her). Typically, she’s somewhat late for appointments. The final time I requested for a unique coiffure, she gave pushback as a result of “I wouldn’t handle it.”
I’m prepared to maneuver on to somebody new and a brand new coiffure. What’s the correct approach to break up along with your hairstylist? I wish to do it in individual, but it surely could possibly be awkward, and she or he may get offended. Ought to I give an additional tip? — HAIRY SITUATION IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR HAIRY SITUATION: You aren’t this stylist’s pal; you might be her consumer. You could have each proper to alter stylists, and also you shouldn’t really feel responsible for doing so. For those who really feel you should give her a cause, inform her the reality on the telephone or in individual. You’re inside your rights to make a change if you want. It shouldn’t create unwell emotions, and also you don’t have to offer her a farewell tip.
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