DEAR ABBY: My stepdaughter died tragically this 12 months, struck by a driver whereas on her morning stroll. She leaves behind a husband and 4 kids below the age of 18.
Their marriage ceremony anniversary is arising, and we often ship a card and cash. What can be applicable for me to do for our son-in-law? I want to ship a card letting him know I’m pondering of him, however don’t know the phrases to say. — STUMPED IN MINNESOTA
DEAR STUMPED: Please settle for my deepest sympathy for the lack of your stepdaughter. As a result of her husband is household, I don’t suppose sending a card can be sufficient.
Decide up the telephone, begin a dialog and inform him he’s in your and your partner’s ideas and also you need him to realize it. Sending an anniversary card to somebody whose partner has not too long ago died may not be as useful as lending a prepared ear.
DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I’ve not had intercourse for the final 4 years. I’m not an ideal husband. I’ve made my share of errors — not all the time telling the reality, texting different girls — and she or he has her share of imperfections as nicely. She has hit me on multiple event. She has additionally pulled a gun on me and stole $1,400. And but, I discover myself placing all that apart and shifting ahead. I do love my spouse, however proper now I’m at my breaking level. Do you’ve got any recommendation? — AT WITS’ END IN TEXAS
DEAR WITS’ END: Since you love your spouse and need to keep married, TELL her that. Whilst you’re at it, supply her the chance to work out your variations by means of marriage counseling. If she agrees, it will likely be a large leap in the precise course. Nonetheless, if she doesn’t, to your personal security, you two should separate. The connection you’ve got described is risky, unhealthy and unsafe for you.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a senior girl and have been in a relationship for 5 months with a widower. His spouse died three years in the past. He calls me each night time, and we see one another three to 4 occasions per week.
My concern is that he’s low-cost. He makes 3 times what I do however takes me out just for bar meals meals. I need to say one thing, however I’m unsure how. He’s an important man apart from this, however I don’t need to keep if he doesn’t worth me extra. Ought to I inform him he’s too low-cost or simply break it off? — UNDERVALUED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR UNDERVALUED: No, don’t do both. Inform him you’re feeling a relentless food regimen of bar meals isn’t the healthiest, and also you want to attempt one thing completely different. Then ask him to make a reservation at a restaurant. If he balks, volunteer that maybe you would break up the price. His response to that may let you know whether or not to stay with him or not.
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