DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve very completely different approaches to social media; He’s all in, and I’m all out. I don’t “do” the web. I don’t have Fb, Instagram, X, Snapchat and no matter else persons are utilizing nowadays. I stop utilizing social media 5 years in the past once I realized how a lot it was contributing to my stress. Leaving it behind has helped me tremendously.
My situation is that my husband is on all of it day, each day and he “doomscrolls,” which may make any dangerous temper he’s in worse. That is irritating sufficient, however my actual grievance is he continually tries to contain me. He desires to point out me posts or learn them to me and expects me to take part in his more and more dangerous temper. How do I get him to cease? I’ve instructed him earlier than that I don’t need to hear it and, if I did, I’d have an account myself. — UNPLUGGED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR UNPLUGGED: The subsequent time your husband does this, ask him if he realizes how badly it impacts you. Inform him you uncoupled from social media since you acknowledged it wasn’t good for you emotionally or bodily. (Sensational information has been recognized to trigger blood stress to go up.) Inform him emphatically that you just don’t like what his habit to social media does to his character, and to not strategy you with it once more or you’ll go away the room or the home. Then do it.
DEAR ABBY: My brother and his spouse have been married for 22 years. He has all the time been the breadwinner. She stayed dwelling with their three children, which made it attainable for them to lift a household. He adopted his profession, which concerned a whole lot of journey. My sister-in-law and I had a heart-to-heart once they had been first married about whether or not this was an excellent association as a result of it left her susceptible, however she was certain my brother noticed her as an equal associate. It seems she was improper.
Their marriage has develop into shaky, and he now says he’s going to get “screwed” in the event that they divorce as a result of his spouse will take “his” cash. She raised their children and ran the home with out assist, and now he’s saying none of that was essential work. Any decide would give her alimony, however he’s full of resentment, and it’s making the state of affairs more durable.
I’ve tried speaking with my brother; he accuses me of being on her aspect. They’re in remedy, however he’s being so imply that I can hardly take a look at him now. How can I assist my brother perceive that she did a whole lot of the work that made it attainable for him to have his job? — SISTER SEES IT CLEARLY
DEAR SISTER: Let your brother’s lawyer and the household regulation decide clarify the information of life to your brother. He’s full of anger and greed proper now and never considering rationally. You aren’t going to win the disagreement you might be having with him, so in your personal sake, again off. I can solely supply my sympathy to your sister-in-law.
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