DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I are in our 80s, married for 61 years. We’re financially well-off and have few medical points. As we strategy our departure from this Earth, we’ve created the mandatory authorized paperwork to distribute our belongings. So, what’s the issue? My partner is a “collector.” We’ve a number of great china settings, sterling silver and exquisite linens. At one time, we set a fantastic desk.
At this time, outdated age has caught up with us. Most of these invitees are gone. However my partner and I reside like we did 50 years in the past, and it’s getting on my nerves. No one needs our stuff! It’s time to divest ourselves of possessions that anyone else may need an curiosity in and get them off our fingers. My partner refuses to half with ANYTHING. There’s all the time an excuse to maintain the litter.
I noticed this in my dad and mom a long time in the past. If it got here within the entrance door, it didn’t exit once more. Why are folks so hooked on issues, and what may be performed to alleviate my anxiousness? — READY TO LET GO IN SAN FRANCISCO
DEAR READY: Think about this: Every bit of china and crystal, each sample of silverware and all of the equipment that folks used to assume had been essential to create a fantastic dwelling (and life), have treasured reminiscences connected. The place you see litter, your spouse sees the completely happy years spent buying it and entertaining.
As a result of these things are now not getting used, they might be boxed up “simply in case” they’re wanted once more. {Photograph} them so you may have a document of what they’re, and focus on along with your spouse presumably donating them to a charity thrift retailer. When you are appropriate that younger folks right this moment aren’t as avid about formal entertaining as members of your technology had been, there are nonetheless folks round who acknowledge high quality and worth who may be excited by having a few of it.
As to your anxiousness, focus on this along with your physician and, if vital, ask for a referral to a therapist for some counseling.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve an exquisite, clever 19-year-old daughter. She’s a junior in school in one other metropolis. She has all the time been extraordinarily skinny. We’ve taken her to docs to handle this. They found a vitamin deficiency and steered she eat extra nutritious meals with nutritional vitamins prescribed.
My query is, is it OK to push meals on her after her barely eaten meals? She will get full instantly and doesn’t all the time take her nutritional vitamins. I don’t need her to distance herself from me by insisting she eat extra. — MOTHERING MOTHER IN TEXAS
DEAR MOTHER: I don’t suggest that you simply “push” meals in your daughter. Should you do, it might trigger her to insurgent. I do, nevertheless, assume it may be a good suggestion for you to perform a little research about consuming issues, as a result of your daughter could have one.
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